She's part of our lucky star now

On Oct 1, 2013 5:17 AM, "Lenny wrote:

Happy birthday my brother , relish the day....life can be short....mom is gone, but we are here to move on, and stick together, we have created a very strong bond, and will always be close... As she would like us to do.....I love you brother ...have a good day...

ps..enclosed in this email is a birthday check for you...haha.....also....

I find comfort talking to mom in the evening, outside as I look up into the stars, she always said I had a lucky star watching over me, now she is part of that star....
Lenny

Ingrid & Egon Schwab

( Add picture of Ingrid and Egon )

-----Original Message-----
From: Ingrid Schwab
Sent: Wednesday, August 21, 2013 8:27 AM
To: Julie Ruden
Subject: Per E-Mail senden: PIC000155

  Love Julie, wich are unfortunately bad news, we will pray for your mom and
wish her all the love and good, we send 1000 hugs and  kisses !

best wishes for all, Ingrid

Phil Schwimmer

From: Pschwimmer1
Sent: Wednesday, August 21, 2013 10:04 AM
To: julie ruden
Subject: Re: Dr. Mom hospice

Hi Julie:  
  I just forwarded to mom some good Jewish humor before I read your e-mail.  But I would have sent it anyway, and hope it gives her some enjoyment.  Am thinking of her, and hope that all goes well with her.  Love to both of you, Phil  

 

-----Original Message-----
From: Julie Ruden
Sent: Tue, Aug 20, 2013 6:24 pm
Subject: Dr. Mom hospice

Hi all there is no good way to say that Dr. Mom has in home Hospice care – started last Friday after a stay at Cleveland Clinic last week.

She is comfortable, no pain, doing emails but not taking many calls in between sleeping.

I know you would want to know and I will keep you informed.

Love, Julie

Dr. Michael Ruden in action

-----Original Message-----
From: Julie Ruden
Sent: Wednesday, August 21, 2013 4:44 PM
To: Dr Mom; J
Subject: Dr. Michael Ruden in action

-- paste pic of Michael at Cleveland Clinic with mom --

Ariane - what's news?

---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: "Ariane Roy"
Date: Aug 16, 2013 5:10 AM
To: "Dr. Lisa Earle"

Dear Both!

No news good news? How are you? Hope all is well.
I'm looking forward to hearing from you...

With love
Ariane and <boys>

---------- Forwarded message --------- Am 16.08.2013 18:44, schrieb Lisa Earle:

No news, bad news....back from hospital...meds stopped working...feeling very tired...schon genug?  ...Love to you and alll....Lisa

---------- Forwarded message ---------
From: "Ariane Roy"
Date: Aug 21, 2013 11:20 PM
To: "Lisa Earle"

Dear Lisa! Keep strong, we love you! What do you mean by <schon genug>? Wir haben noch nicht genug von dir, Lisa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
With LOVE Ariane Horst and Flori

Jo Ann Medalie

Jo Ann Medalie is one of the law firm lawyers (she joined us at the reception at Sheraton Yankee Clipper)...

-------Original Message-------
From: Jo Ann Medalie
Date: 08/20/13 22:36:30
To: Lisa Earle
Subject: Thinking
 
Don and I are thinking of you and wishing we could be there to give you a big hug.  Although we have not seen you in many years, you remain in our hearts, bursting with admiration for the life you have led......Always striving for knowledge, committed to excellence, devoted to family and friends, a spiritual giant.  Quite a legacy.
Sending our love...
Don and Jo Ann Medalie
 

Popkin Family Photos website

...this is in reference to Fred Messing's family-tree website that mom helped full in some info for...

( Warren Popkin Family Photos )

On Jul 10, 2012 1:53 PM, "Dr. Lisa Earle"  wrote:
Sharing my  koduus (or is t kudoos?)
 
 
 MOM
 
-------Original Message-------
 
From: Laura Messing
Date: 7/10/2012 12:01:23 PM
To: Dr. Lisa Earle
Subject: Thank you
 
Dear Lizl,
 
  Thank you! Thank you! You are absolutely amazing.  You are filling in a huge blank in family for us.  My mom used to talk about Leonard Barr and many other relatives, but I never really knew who was who!  As I say, you are absolutely amazing and we cannot thank you enough.
 
  I was telling Fred last night that we once stayed with Iris and Delsie in their parents' gorgeous house on the water.  They had an ice cream fountain in that house. That made a huge impression on me when I was little.
 
How is your neck?  I hope you are healing ok!!
 
Lots of love,
Laura

Sharing a Last Snack

Hi Mom,
  One last snack to share with you.
I love you.
---D.

It really is the most perfect snack :).

Memorial

I have a Blog I’ve been building for a handful of years.  It documents random events, emails, visits, pictures, conversations with Mom.  Not just with me, but anyone that I occasionally found time to add to it.  The week before Yom Kippur I was adding an entry to it.  At the end, I went to type “I Love You Mom”.  But I mistyped, and it came out “I Live You Mom”.    

I corrected it, but then thought about what an interesting slip of the fingers that was. 
I live you mom.

Our mother imparted to us, the facets of her own life and her own personality.  I like unusual people.  It’s not my fault.  She loved learning about people.  Strangers as well as friends.  And she had the most interesting of friends.  From such creative walks of life.  

She lost her husband, Simon, at much too young an age.  I was so young that I don’t remember him.  But her trauma became my trauma.  And her stories of how good a person he was became my model for how to be a good person.  And a model of Tikun Olam that lives strongly I think, in each of us.

She loved classical music.  But what 6 year old wants to go to the opera?  Or listen to it on the drive home from temple on Friday nights? But which of us does not enjoy opera and classical music today?

But perhaps most of all, she was eternally curious.  It didn’t matter if she didn’t fully understand the explanations she got back.  Or even if she was able to remember them.  It was the unknown that intrigued her, and the challenge of learning something new that kept her going. 

Last week Wednesday evening, I was visiting with Julie.  I returned at almost 10pm.  Mom was still up. She had paused her show, Jeopardy. She was playing Words-With-Friends while waiting for me.  She wanted to watch the show together.  I was very touched and overjoyed. I so loved watching Jeopardy with her, and she didn’t always wait for me during my visits. 

We watched, and both struggled to get the answers.  It was a difficult board for us both, that night.  In Final-Jeopardy, she got the answer correct.  She was so pleased with herself.   And I was so proud of her.  I feel that eternal curiosity from her.  I drive my wife crazy with it sometimes.  But I hope to live up to my mother’s model as I grow older.  It was so sustaining for her. 

Our mother gave us each pieces of herself.  They’ve become pieces of us.  They’ve become pieces of me.

I Love You Mom.

I Live You Mom.

Emailing Friends and Family

Hello all,

  I have copied as many people as I have in my email address book, but I know it is not all. Please pass the news as you are able.  

My mother, Lisa Ruden Earle passed away earlier this afternoon, at the life fulfilled age of 93.  She was resting and comfortable at home, surrounded by daughter Julie, and son Lenny.  I was in the middle of making travel arrangements to fly down when I heard the news. 

 This was generally expected as she had a month ago halted medications for her condition and signed up for Hospice.  Over the following 4 or 5 weeks, her medication side effects departed, and while still fatigued on and off through out the day, she did very very well, surprising everyone with her renewed vibrance for life, visiting with family frequently, and even swimming a couple times.  As the doctors had predicted, her blood count dropped to a threshold low level and her condition turned downwards very quickly at the end.  Last Wednesday night she complained of neck and shoulder pain keeping her awake.  A strong pain killer helped put the pain down and she slept well.  Thursday was mostly normal (such as had become her normal), but with a somewhat increased level of fatigue.  Overnight, the neck and shoulder pain returned at an increased level.  She was thankful to have small doses of morphine on hand from Hospice.  Friday she was very tired and remained in bed for the day.  Saturday was more of the same.  She had not eaten for several days by then, and had very little water - she was mostly sleeping.  Finally early Sunday afternoon, she quietly passed.  

  We are all deeply grieved.  But we wanted to be sure to reach out to all of you as we are able, to let you know the news.  She loved and enjoyed knowing every one of you, in the various and interesting ways she knew you.  As do I. 

All our love to you.

---Dave, Julie, Lenny R.

Public Aannouncement

Dr. Lisa Ruden Earle, 93 years old, passed away peacefully at home on Sunday September 22^nd 2013.

She is survived by her 3 children - Leonard Ruden, David Ruden, & Julia Ruden; her daughter-in-law Pam Ruden, 4 Step Sons - James Earle, Richard Earle, Timothy Earle, & Michael Earle; 10 grandchildren and 7 great-grand children.

Funeral service will be held at Temple Israel of Highlands County, 1305 Temple Israel Drive on Tuesday September 24^th at 10 AM 

Graveside service will be held immediately following in Ft. Lauderdale 3:00 PM at Evergreen Historic Cemetery, 1300 S.E. 10^thAve., Ft Lauderdale, 33315

Buses will be provided for those who need transportation to Evergreen Historic Cemetery in Ft Lauderdale.

Buffet will follow graveside service at the Sheraton Ft. Lauderdale Beach Hotel, 1140 Sea Breeze Blvd. Ft. Lauderdale 33316

Buses will return to Sebring by evening.

In lieu of flowers donations can be made to Temple Israel of Highland’s County at the above address, in honor and memory of Dr. Lisa Ruden Earle.

Passing the word

From: Dave R
Sent: Sunday, September 22, 2013 8:57 PM
Subject: Dr. Lisa Ruden Earle

Hello all,

  I have copied as many people as I have in my email address book, but I know it is not all. Please pass the news as you are able.  

My mother, Lisa Ruden Earle passed away earlier this afternoon, at the life fulfilled age of 93.  She was resting and comfortable at home, surrounded by daughter Julie, and son Lenny.  I was in the middle of making travel arrangements to fly down when I heard the news. 

 This was generally expected as she had a month ago halted medications for her condition and signed up for Hospice.  Over the following 4 or 5 weeks, her medication side effects departed, and while still fatigued on and off through out the day, she did very very well, surprising everyone with her renewed vibrance for life, visiting with family frequently, and even swimming a couple times.  As the doctors had predicted, her blood count dropped to a threshold low level and her condition turned downwards very quickly at the end.  Last Wednesday night she complained of neck and shoulder pain keeping her awake.  A strong pain killer helped put the pain down and she slept well.  Thursday was mostly normal (such as had become her normal), but with a somewhat increased level of fatigue.  Overnight, the neck and shoulder pain returned at an increased level.  She was thankful to have small doses of morphine on hand from Hospice.  Friday she was very tired and remained in bed for the day.  Saturday was more of the same.  She had not eaten for several days by then, and had very little water - she was mostly sleeping.  Finally early Sunday afternoon, she quietly passed.  

  We are all deeply grieved.  But we wanted to be sure to reach out to all of you as we are able, to let you know the news.  She loved and enjoyed knowing every one of you, in the various and interesting ways she knew you.  As do I. 

All our love to you.

---Dave, Julie, Lenny R.

Merrie Meyers

From: Merrie Meyers
Sent: Sunday, September 22, 2013 6:01 PM
To: Alan Levy
Cc: Julie Ruden
Subject: Lisa

Dear Marsha and Alan,

Lisa passed away this afternoon. She was 93.

She's begun to fail about a month or so ago. She had a type of cancer that ABC Anchor Robin Roberts had been fighting, MDS or myelodysplastic syndrome. It's a disease of the blood and bone marrow and was once known as pre-leukemia. Although, because of her age, she was not able to have the surgery to replace her bone marrow, she'd been doing quite well with regular transfusions to keep her blood counts stable. Recently, though, the transfusions had stopped having a positive effect. She's been in hospice care for the better part of a week, however, was strong and alert enough to send out emails regarding a potential hacking of her Facebook page. (Vintage Lisa, no?).

I spoke to Julie this afternoon. She passed peacefully at home in Lake Placid. Lenny is there now, and David is on his way. There will be a short service in Lake Placid and then the family will come down here for a graveside ceremony at Evergreen, where she will be laid to rest in the family's plot, next to Simon and their daughter, Susie. I don't know the particulars of the Ft. Lauderdale timeline, but Julie is thinking things will roll out later this week.

I will keep you posted as to the details of the service and the Shiva. Julie wants to have a Shiva at a local hotel since there are so many people who knew and loved her. Although Donnie McCloskey is gone, there should be enough of the "old gang" that will come to remember.

After all, she came to this country as a teenager, not even finishing high school. After Simon died, as a single mom, she dabbled in the arts, started the Opera company, earned her GED, graduated from BC, and FAU, where she received her Ph.D. at 70. "Dr. Mom," as Julie nicknamed her, was such a vivacious person, that I truly believed she's outlast all of us. She survived several bouts of cancer and the loss of two husbands, and a couple of other serious ailments. Yet, despite everything, she remained such an optimist. I went to see her a couple of months ago and even though she needed a walker for strength, she had that athletic look, as though she could bound out the door to play a set of tennis in Holiday Park. It was only in the last month that she expressed fatigue and a readiness "to be done with it."

I have fond memories of growing up as part of the extended Ruden household, sharing birthdays, holidays, and family dinners. Who knew that Lisa's "friends" were legends in the world of Opera or that she herself had a world class voice. All I knew was that she joined my grandfather, who studied to be a cantor, in stellar singing, that she  made a hell of a goulash, terrific crepes and offered me a much needed a refuge from what was a rocky existence in my home. I will always have a sweet spot for "Singing Waters." her house on Solar Isle, and the people in it.

As soon as I get details, I will pass them on. Lisa certainly was a role model for me and for so many others.

Zie Gezundt, Merrie

The Universe

The center of the universe.
Has died.
How.
Can it go on.
Without her.

Nice Yom Kippur Weekend

Other than Julie's agony re-injuring her groin, it was a very nice weekend.

Word With Friends

On my last visit home (end of August) I got Mom paying Word's With Friends with me.  She'd stopped playing it quite a while ago when some of the words she wants to use were disallowed, sp rejection of Jew highly offended her.
So I got her back on it again, and boy has she gone to town with it. She's off playing a half dozen people, and paying 2 games with me. She is consistently beating the heck out of me - and I'm a decent (ok not great) scrabble player.
In addition - and this is the biggest blessing - it has moved her mind away from focusing on 'the end'. Truly wonderful.

Amazing

Never underestimate her ability to amaze and inspire!

Empty Library :(((

Don't this just rip your heart out....

---------- Forwarded message ----------
On Aug 30, 2013 12:34 PM, "Lisa Earle" wrote:

Empty library...:(((
...I MISS YOU..LOVE, MOM

From: "Dave R"
Date: Aug 31, 2013 12:15 PM
Subject: Re: Empty library...:(((
To: "Lisa Earle"

Aww. I miss you too.
Really enjoyed being there, and was pleasantly surprised how effective I was able to be with work.
Love you!
---Me.

Words to Live By

On Fri, Aug 9, 2013 at 8:35 AM, Dr. Lisa Earle wrote:


> Inhale Love...
> Exhale Gratitude.

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Nice :).
She and Julie are heading down to Cleveland Clinic (S.FL) this evening.
Mom is feeling a bit worse each day, now that the blood count med has stopped working. She tried to resist pursuing other treatments, but she feels too crummy. So they're off to the South.
It's getting rougher these days.

Jewish Wisdom .... 

 There was once a wise Jewish man . He said that the essence of all wisdom is what you have in your head ! His name was Solomon .

 Then came another wise Jewish man . He said that the essence of all is what you have in your heart !! His name was Jesus .

 Then came a third wise Jewish man . He said that the essence of all is what you have in your stomach !!! His name was Marx .

 After him , came a fourth wise Jewish man. He said that the essence of all is what you have between your legs !!!! His name was Freud .

 Then came another wise Jewish man - wiser than all before - called Einstein He said everything is relative !!!!!

Mom Having a Good Day

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From: Dr. Lisa Earle
Sent: 02 March 2013
To: Dave Ruden; Kenny; Lenny; yvonne; Paul & Carol Kelly; PHILIP SCHWIMMER; Peter

Subject: Fw: Mom having a good day

Had to share!!!  Julie took a picture of me this morning when I was dressed for company(rare occasion these days...)  It turned out so good, I had to share with you all....
Love, Lisa


















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From: Yvonne
Date: 3/7/2013
To: 'Dr. Lisa Earle'
Subject: RE: Mom having a good day

Julie and Debby, it was so lovely to speak to you yesterday.It meant a lot to mum too.
Lots of love and Lisa well done for overcoming such obstacles.
Love always,
Yvonne and family
xxx

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From: Deborah Aschheim
Date: 3/7/2013
To: Dr Lisa Earle;  Julie Ruden
Cc: Paul Dutch;  Daniel Sitton;  Lucy;  Iris Dutch;  M Alter;
Subject: Re: Mom having a good day

Dear Cousins in London and Florida:

It was truly wonderful being together in Florida, and connecting to Josie.  Although we are separated by geographic distance, the closeness that we all have for each other ---- which is multi-generational ---- is truly a blessing that our ancestors would marvel over.

We hope that Josie is doing as well as she can.  We are all glad if she can get some pleasures from the calls.  And, seeing Lisa, who is as beautiful as ever!

Let's all keep in touch,

Debbie

Pls excuse if I got the emails wrong ---- I am in florida and don't have my list.






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From: Dr. Lisa Earle
Sent: 06 March 2013
To:   Debbie;

Dear Debbie:

You will never know how much it meant to me to hug you and kiss you...thanks for all the bountiful gifts, the bagels, the Lox, the Blings, the Temple gift (WOW)  but of course, above all YOU!!!

I am glad I had a pretty good day when you arrived, sorry about the next day, when(for a change?:-(((   I was feeling lousy-forgive, please....

You are a vibrant, lovely person, I am so proud of you and your so successful career and the great life you mapped out for you and your great family!!!

Love you , always,
Lisa

Toby Spiegel

A long time friend of my mother's, Toby Spiegel passed away. Her husband, Lou Spiegel died not long ago (last year I believe).  Nice people.  Sad to see them go.  

On Fri, Jan 4, 2013 at 10:55 AM, Dr. Lisa Earle wrote:

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Thank you, Howard, for letting me know of her passing! I hope and pray, she is now at peace, she was waiting for this to be, ever since she lost your wonderful Dad...

 

Here is my Email address:  (cut)

 

Please, send me any details about the funeral arrangement, if you can ( Place, time, directions, etc.)  Also, your home address.

 

My sincere Condolences to you and Carmen! 

 

Best,    Lisa and Julie, and family