Sunday, May 3, 2009

Mom visit - update, and Julie comes home

Mom is not feeling too great today. She said she had a difficult night sleeping, and kept waking up with her cough. She breakfasted with me, she took a shower, we talked about me and Pam, and she's now getting on her stationary bicycle to try to "clear her breathing".





She asked me if I was ok with letting go of my apartment? Letting go of the freedom to 'get away' to my place if I wanted to. I said I was afraid of the move-in, but was ok with it. Pam too is afraid, and we've discussed that with each other. Pam says she's not as good at starting up those intimate-feelings conversations. But once I start them and make 'safety' primary, she is quite good at going there with me. That is one of the most important things to me in a relationship now, and it's so good to have that with her.







Julie is back in Miami this morning, and will be back home towards late afternoon. She's had a really nice time, and I hope she got a chance for a *most* well deserved bit of relaxation.






She asked me to wash the dogs if I got the chance. But I'm just not enough of a dog-person to do that yet :). Patches has been great this time around. And Bessie, poor thing, is a sweetie. Each morning when she went outside for her morning consitition, I would follow it with a good brushing out of her undercoat - Wow that's a lot of hair!!!! I think she really liked it, and she seemed to be happier when I'd come and go. I also swept most of the floor at Julies place this morning and washed up the dishes to try to make it so she didn't come home to a complete mess of work. If she wants to wash Bessie (and this morning, I agree that she definitely needs it), I'd be happy to help her do it. But with Bessie in the condition she is in now and Julie not present, I don't think I want to do it myself. Julie knows how much to push Bessie, what her wimpers mean, and how much she can take. I don't.

Saturday, May 2, 2009

Teddy Stern

I also got a chance to talk with mom's friend, Teddy Stern, today. That was so nice. She (and Sigy) have been such a vivid and warm part of our family life. It is always wonderful to get a chance to chat with her.

Mom is making her famous Liptauer bread-spread for my trip back up to Raleigh Monday. Don't know if it will last until then :).

Merenge!

Browsing around YouTube this morning on my mother's computer. Looking at various Latin-dance lessons. Came across some Merenge stuff for which the basic-step looks dirt simple! Thought of Pam while watching it, and thinking how much we're both looking forward to getting some lessons down and doing some fun dancing together once were done with all the medical junk.
It's just a simple left-right step, over and over again. No pauses, no extra repeat stepping. It's like the shuffling dance I saw once at a Haitian wedding I went to years ago. At that time, I didn't understand and couldn't quite get it. But now I think that must have been some form of Merenge.
With the stuff I've learned from all the Mambo classes I've taken, some of the added fun-stuff - turns, swings, shifts in directions - looks pretty easy to add in.
I emailed a YouTube video to Pam that I thought was pretty good in it's lesson-combo: basic step, simple direction-changes, simple turns, etc. I think she'll get a kick out of it!

Friday, May 1, 2009

Visit while Julie goes on Vacation

Mom and I went to the doctor (scheduled appt) on Tuesday to have a check up on the leg injury she got from the dog. It was doing well. We did not go swimming that day due to all the doctor and chasing-around activity of the day. Wednesday, was a good day for her, and in the late afternoon we went swimming. Thursday, Mom was feeling poorly, and had developed a persistent cough. It does not seem infection related, and is maybe more of a talking-too-much kind of thing? Something is irritating her chest, so she coughs. Also she was feeling tired and run down all day, so we did not make it into the pool at all. Goulash for dinner!!!

Today (Friday) she's still got the cough, but it seem much much less. We're planning on the swim later and hopefully it will work out. If not, I'll try to get her to at least come down with me to the poolside. Perhaps being there will motivate her to get in .

Patches has been incredibly well behaved, I'm super impressed with him!

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Visit while Julie Takes Vacation

Julie went on her well deserved vacation cruise with Ellen this week. Due to the goings on with Pam at present, I was initial not planning on coming down. But Julie called me a couple weeks prior and said Andrea, my standin, had a family in NY to go to herself. Julie had no other backup. So I arranged for train tickets and came down last Sunday for the week. Pam is on the Gemcytoven chemo this week, and that seems to be pretty mild, so it's actually good timing as well.

I'm enjoying time to share with mom. Today I conjured up some Hungarian Goulash for us, and she gave a few small pointers. Planning on a swim in 20 minutes or so.

Bessie is having quite some diffficulty these days, even to the point where I sometimes need to hand feed her. Julie has me give her some oral medications (hidden in liverwurst) for her joint pain, and that seems to help some.

Patches has been such an incredibly good dog. He has not jumped up on me a single time, with out me asking him to first. I'm so very impressed! He's such a HAPPY-DAWG!

Sunday, April 5, 2009

New Kitchen Floor!

-------Original Message-------
From: Dr. Lisa Earle

Paydirt!!!
We got a new kitchen floor! Finally!!! Hurrah-it's beautiful!


-------Original Message-------
From: jruden






1948 England

From: Dr. Lisa Earle
Sent: Wednesday, April 01, 2009 11:49 AM
To: Steve Hirschhorn
Subject: Re: Fw: PictureMail

This was Kate, who, I thought, at that time looked so much like Walter, as I remembered him at that age( about 5 or 6...)

I took a picture with my cell phone and sent it on to my computer...don't know beans about scanning, I am afraid and am too ancient and lazy at this point to learn...:(((

I do REMEMBER THE Florida T-SHIRTS...

P.S....so good to be in touch with you, Steve -Good Luck to you in your comings and goings (and you seem to be going and going like a good battery...keep it up, Cousin Steve/ ( or "Paul " on those old pics :)!!!

L.

-------Original Message-------

From: Steve Hirschhorn
Date: 4/1/2009 11:02:58 AM
To: Dr. Lisa Earle
Subject: Re: Fw: PictureMail

wow, these are some great pictures!!!
Who is the little girl with Walter?
Are you scanning these in? I recall with some sense of guilt that I promised to help you with your (then new) scanner...

Sometimes it's good to have a wander down memory lane isn't it!

I do remember that when Granny came back from visiting you, she brought me (and maybe Robert too, I don't recall) a t shirt boldy exclaiming 'FLORIDA' in fairly garish manner - a perfect gift for a Birmingham bound kid of my ilk! You may even remember her buying it / them...
Irene wouldn't let me wear it of course. But I remember which is what it's all about isn't it...

Actually Walter hasn't really filled in too much of the extended family details and I wouldn't want to push him. What he did do was explain why he never visited and why we lost touch with everyone.
He was always painted as the evil of the piece by Irene - right up to recent times in fact. You probably know that Simon used to visit Irene - they seemed to get on rather well - I fear poor Simon was no threat and so was accepted on her terms. Through Simon then, we kept more or less up to date with Walter - at least we knew that he was back in Austria and so on.
I don't know if you know what happened when Irene died.. I immediately contacted the authorities in Graz, both civil and Jewish (I didn't know then that Walter had never considered himself part of the Jewish community) by email and received a telephone call from a charming lady at the Graz Rat Haus who gave me Walter's number. I sent her a huge bunch of flowers in gratitude!

OK, back to work!

bye for now
love
s


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2009/4/1 Dr. Lisa Earle

Another find....a (very) faded picture of your Granny, myself and Walter, when I visited England after D-day in 1947 or 8, I believe!

You got me wading through all those boxes and albums of old photographs and I am enjoying marching through memory lane...

Love,
Lisa